If You Want Prince Charming Then Drop Prince Harming
By Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
It is no secret that a lot of women have quite a bit of emotional self-mending to do from the wear-and-tear of being romantically involved in unhealthy relationships. Many tend to display a high tolerance level for putting up with a lot of nonsense by ignoring the lies and infidelity dished out to them by unscrupulous mis-matched mates.
This unfortunate pattern can be a direct result of inappropriate early childhood conditioning, where as a female you’ve been pre-programmed, either consciously or sub-consciously, to believe the falsehood that “men will always be men; all of them cheat; 10% of something is better than 100% of nothing, so keep your moth shut and say nothing as long as he comes back home or take care of the bills.”
Somewhere within this off-keyed melody, you’ve been sung a watered-down fairy-tale version that if you act like a lady, then one day Prince Charming will come along and rescue you. He will sweep you off your feet, provide for you, make you feel protected, and you will live happily ever after. That is only if you’re fortunate enough to pick the true prince and not the counterfeit royal pain, who erroneously believe that he’s entitled to be simultaneously linked to at least two or three ladies-in-waiting.
It is a fact that many women are involved in healthy relationships and happy marriages, but unfortunately, many more are not. A large number are still waiting for the promised fairy-tale romance to materialize. Others have given up hope of ever finding their prince and have settled for the court jester instead. Many are caught up in having an affair with someone else’s mate. Still, others have chosen celibacy to escape the hurt felt when Prince Charming turns out to be Prince Harming.
Early childhood experiences or failed relationships along life’s path have left many women harboring low self-esteem, despondency, or frustration. And as an escape, many confuse being involved with being in love.
The unfortunate thing is, nowhere within the early conditioning, has anyone told you that it is mandatory to periodically pause at different stages along your life path to “toot your own horn” and build up your self-worth. In other words, to tell yourself how lovely, beautiful, and valuable you are.
Some would quickly label this as being selfish, but I beg to differ and I encourage you to be “self-full;” full of self-appreciation, self-respect, and self-love. You cannot undo what was done yesterday, but you can break the pattern and create a better today. Place a high value on yourself. Trust me on this—don’t let anyone stop you from becoming the best you that you can be, or from taking time to take care of your total self (mind, body, and spirit). You are too important to squander your precious years with a mis-matched mate who will not make a monogamous commitment with you and stick to it. You deserve the best, don’t settle for less. Here’s to celebrating the new you, and to receiving the healthy relationship and the fantastic and kind treatment that you deserve!
